Archive for September, 2007

An extremely short play.

Sunday, September 23rd, 2007

Fall: Hello, Pride. Why don’t you go first?

Pride: Okay. *flounces ahead*

Fall: Oh, look. There’s a woman who is congratulating herself on the successful potty training of her fifth child, her ability to exclusively breastfeed, and her organization skills.

Pride: I think I’ll go shake her hand.

Fall: Watch out. She has a tendency to not let go.

Pride: That’s where you come in.

Fall: I love my job.

<Curtain>

Yes, Pride and Fall are two of our everyday acquaintances. They’re like two threads intertwined. They’re inseperable. If you get too much of the former, you also get too much of the latter. One must keep in mind that acquiring too much pride can lead to our downfall (remember Aristotle’s definition of a tragic hero? Hamartia…ring any bells?).

On Rich’s Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence

Wednesday, September 19th, 2007

I know I’m no lesbian but I gotta say, Adrienne Rich has a point.

"Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence" is a 1980 essay by Adrienne Rich (a lesbian and a prominent figure of the Feminist Movement who was a major contributor to the Gay and Lesbian Criticism and the Queer Theory). The essay was first published in her 1986 book entitled Blood Bread and Poetry.

Rich denounces those Feminists who fights for the rights of the women but assume the persona of a heterosexual, middle class female. She argued that the traditional Feminists turn a blind eye to the existence of homosexual females.

In her essay, she discusses 3 main topics. These three are:

  • sexualized relations of power within institutions
  • lesbian experience/lesbian continuum
  • questions of sexual identity

According to Rich, women are subjected to social expectations laid down by men (i.e. that women should be "attractive" and supportive of the males whom are proclaimed as superiors, that women are sexually accessilble to men, etc.). One example of this is the males’ search for trophy wives. Basically, what Rich was trying to imply is that these behavioral expectations consist the views of COMPULSORY HETEROSEXUALITY. Everyone is "mandated" to be staright. She also pointed out that this is a way of men to systematically ensure their power over women since these "filling of designated roles" subtley undermines the role of women, thereby labeling them as the "inferiors" or "the weaker other sex".

Furthermore, heterosexuality is compulsory because only partners of the opposite sex are deemed appropriate. Therefore, all same-sex desires must be denied or indulged in secrecy, and various kinds of same-sex bondings are looked upon with suspiscion.

It is rather important to note that heterosexuality is imposed, managed, organized, propagandized, and maintained by society. Women receive messages that promote heterosexual behavior in the form of myths and norms. Such myths include the VAGINAL ORGASM. This is a myth that serves to imply that a man is the only one who’s capable of satisfying a woman sexually and likewise prevents women from having relationships with other women for fear of not being given sexual satisfaction.

On a more important note, compulsory heterosexuality punishes those who do not comply to such behavior. This makes same-sex relationships become taboo, and often, criminalized. This leads to intolerance and the "choosing not to see" of gay men and lesbians in the society.

Forging on to the next point which is the Lesbian Experience/Continuum. Under this topic, Rich calls forth for a greater understanding of homosexuality. She belives that once this understanding is already eminent, the boundaries will be widened and women will be able to experience the "erotic" in female terms. Lesbian Experience refers to the historical and contemporary presence of lesbian creation while Lesbian Continuum refers to the entire range of a woman-identified experience. This kind of experience has a theme of RESISTANCE and REJECTION to the patriarchy and the male sovereignty over women.

Lastly, Rich’s essay talks about Questions of Sexual Identity. Under this, queries such as how sexuality is formed are answered. It can be said that this helped pave the way for the Queer Theory. In toto, sexuality is not at all essential or innate. It is a social-conditioning response. It is socio-culturally bound.

A talk for MYSELF…

Sunday, September 16th, 2007

Ever had that feeling when one night, you feel as if you have everything that you’d ever need but then you wake up in the morning and find out that all of a sudden, you have nothing? You’re left feeling abandoned and alone.

Does this sound familiar to you?

If it does, then let’s think it over shall we? Do you think that maybe you just put your hopes up a little too high? Maybe you were expecting for something more? Tell you what, the problem with you is you like to think ahead. Thinking ahead is not at all bad but when you start mixing "thinking ahead" with fairy tales and fantasies (hep hep hep…not THAT kind of fantasy!), you’d end up getting disappointed. You’d end up getting hurt. It has happened to you before, hasn’t it? I’m pretty sure it has.

I believe that this happens often because you have a very romanticized view of the world. But the world isn’t like that all the time. It becomes romantic but then it also ceases in being such. And when it tires out, you always decide to linger on that momentary ideal experience… You never move on from that point in time. Keywords: LET GO. Sometimes taking the fall is much worth doing than the agonizing grasp. If you’re not ready to do so, give yourself time to accept things. But you have to remember that once in a while, you have to losen your grip. Finger by finger, try to lose your grasp…

Once you fall, you’ll realize that your romanticized notions have kept you from experiencing the thrill of moving on. It has kept you from seeing things more clearly. It has let you experience disappointment and even pain.

So, if you find yourself hanging on to something..think it over. Wouldn’t it be better if you would just get your feet from midair back to the ground? ^_^

A taste of Gustave Flaubert’s genius…

Sunday, September 9th, 2007

And so, he wrote:

"Courage, Emma, courage! I don’t want to ruin your life (it’s really true, I’m acting in her interest. I’m being honest). Have you seriously considered your decision? Do you know what an abyss I was dragging you into?  You were going off, rashly confident, believing in happiness, in the future. Ah! What wretched, insane creatures we are!

You must believe me when I say I shall never forget you. I shall continue to feel a deep affection for you. But one day sooner or later, our passion would doubtless have lessened — that is the way things are in life. We should have grown weary. I might have had the terrible pain of witnessing your remorse and even of sharing it since I caused it. The mere thought of the unhappiness you are undergoing tortures me, Emma. Forget me. Why did I have to know you? Why were you so beautiful? Is it my fault? Oh my God! No, no, fate alone is to blame (a word that is always effective)!

Ah! Had you been one of those frivolous women, I would certainly have been able, by sheer egotism, to try an experiment. And it would have been without dabger for you. But your wonderful exaltation, which is both your charm and your undoing, has prevented you, adorable creature that you are, from understanding the falsity of our future position. Nor did I think about it clearly at first. I was relaxing in the shade of our ideal happiness as if it were som e poisonous tree of the tropics, without giving a thought to the consequences.

(She may think I’m giving her up out of stinginess. Well, what can I do? It’s bad but I’ve got to end it.)

The world is cruel, Emma. It would have pursued us everywhere we went. You would have had to endure indiscreet questions, slander, disdain, actual insults perhaps. Insults to you! And I who wanted to seat you on a throne, who will carry away the memory of you like a talisman. For I am punishing myself for all the evil I have done to you by going to exile. I am leaving. Where? I have no idea. I feel I am losing my mind. Farewell! Always remain as good as you are. Do not forget the unhappy man who has lost you. Teach my name to your child so that she will repeat it in her prayers.

(I think that’s all. No, let’s add this so she won’t come back for me:)

I shall be faraway when you read these sad lines. I wanted to flee as quickly as possible in order to avoid seeing you again. I won’t weaken! I shall return later on and perhaps after that we will chat together, without passion, about our former love. Farewell! Fare well!

(How shall I sign? ‘Your devoted’ — No. ‘Your fiend’? Yes, that will do..)

Your friend,
Rodolphe Boulanger